The More We Let Go, The More We Earn

 

Sometimes Happiness doesn’t need to be achieved, we just have to make room for it. Our minds can be full of angst, anguish, hate and fear that there’s no room for smiles.

Some people believes that what’s happening to them determines their prosperity, but the reality is, how they transact with those things determines how they feel.

Wretched thoughts may also be familiar, and familiarity can also be a reason we hold to things much longer than their expiry date.

Let your yesterday’s go, there will be a point where some of that pain will make impression, and some of it never will. We have this need to make impression of things, but it’s at the sacrifice of our ability to enjoy our NOW moments.

Leave the past where it belongs, the lessons will find you; focus on remodeling the way you feel now, it’s all you have.

LOVE IS A GIFT NOT A LOAN

 

Don’t give it out expecting it to be returned. When compensation is expected, can we even call that love?

I know people that criticize about the lack of support they receive. They’re upset that they advertise and support their peers, but don’t receive the same in return. It makes support sound like a currency.

Personally, I don’t want people supporting me who are considering something in return. If you enjoy my stuff please share, if not, no stress.

Love and support people you want to love and support. There are people in our lives whose existence bring us joy; support them. If you don’t particularly enjoy an individual avoid their existence, do your thing, and keep it moving.

When people don’t live up to our expectations, bitterness and negativity can establish. Only we carry that burden not them.

Let that shit go.

Focus on those you love and those that love you, ignore the rest. We’re not all going to get ahead, that’s FINE.

Having people to love is a gift, don’t take them for granted, and introduce yourself on that list. The act of loving is a gift in itself, don’t take that for granted, not everyone is awarded that opportunity.

There’s only one you.

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The way we label ourselves is interesting, because there are so many ways we can do it. How we label and then design ourselves into the world does a lot to conclude how we feel about ourselves.

Some of us label ourselves based on the tags that were given to us (nationality, ethnicity, and so on) and a heap of other tags that our respective societies created. These, as we know, fit us neatly into an organized system for categorization. Some people’s spend their entire lives living up to these definitions and tags, because they don’t know another way to exist. (I must say almost everyone).

Look inside, and figure out who you are, and who you want to be. Understand those definitions from within will change with time. If you’re eighteen and think you got it all figured out, trust me you don’t. If you’re thirty-five, and think you’ve got it all figured out, then in some ways you’re worse off than the eighteen-year-old..

Let life happen, and slide with it, and while on that adventure, discover that you’re authentic self, that’s the self that’s going to feel best in your skin, and share that with the world. Don’t give a f*ck if people get it or not, they’re too busy trying to impress everyone else too.

Unwanted Folks

 
We have to take the charge for the folks we allow into our lives.

This, like everything else in life, is not a piece of cake. Some of the people in our lives that cause us unwanted grief may be in the bedroom next door, and it may feel like challenging the grief is unavoidable.

The key word is “feel.”

We will be better off when we love ourselves enough to stand up for ourselves and how we deserve to be treated. And you know, that may require us to get a bit uncomfortable.

The only question you have to ask yourself after that is, “Is it worth it?”

I can’t answer that question for anyone else but myself. “If everything must go, then go, that’s how I choose to live.” We won’t get the life we wish for, we can only get the life we work for. Sometimes that life isn’t about achieving things that we want, sometimes it’s more about letting things (and people) go.

Letting go doesn’t mean we have to break away from home, it means we have to actively no longer allow people who do not deserve space in our hearts, to have the ability to affect us. That’s a slow process, but we have to start somewhere.

Not everyone can be avoided, but we can limit the calories we throw their way. Respect the limited amount of energy you have, and only shell out it on those you feel deserve it.

What if I Fall?

 

Oh my sweetheart what if you fly?”

Did you ever asked yourself if you like the person you are? If you are you have always desired to be?

Do you know what you want to be?

 

To be blunt, it wasn’t until a few days ago that I realized who I really wanted to be. I want to be that person who really tells people that they can fly. I want to see the magic that they have heaped up in their hearts for so long. And I want to make them see it, I want to make them use it. Because truth be told, falling is another way to fly.

 

Ask yourself, “What if I actually fly?” Ask yourself over and over again, until you stop being pessimistic  that  you’ll fall.

And once you actually believe that you can fly, never let anyone take that from you. Never let that glint go out.

 

And I find it sad that it’s not the fall that shatter most people, but rather angst. Or doubt. They stare down and they’re afraid of what might happen. The fall won’t shatter  you. Trust me. If you are brave enough to try to fly, the fall won’t ever, ever crush you.

 

Failure is provisional. Pain is provisional. Anger is provisional. Hopelessness is provisional.

 

Quitting, However…..that one lasts forever.

 

I believe that if grownups would have been required to learn how to walk, most of us would be creeping on floors. You fall and you get up,  you fall and you get up. Sometimes it hurts. You cry.

But then you give a fresh try. Idealism is a odd mixture of hope, wisdom, and enthusiasm.

 

Courage. Ambition. Perseverance.

 

You’ll have all that, and a lot more, when your belief in the possibility of flourishing becomes stronger than your fear of abortion.

I see the magic in  people. I see magic in artists that I admire. I see an endless potential for eminence. It’s my will to see that in them, even when they aren’t keen to see it in themselves.

 

For a long time I used to consider that I had been born to be immense. That I’d take over the world. That I’d change something, leave something behind. It’s not true, actually. I wasn’t born to be immense. No one ever is. I took that. I told myself that. I lied to myself. I tripped  from failure to failure. I decided to be self-propelled, to be fueled by my desire to become great, not by others seeing that greatness in me. I decided to fight for what I wanted, because no one would ever fight that battle for me.

 

So what if you can fly?….What if you can actually do it..?

 

 

Magic Of Mind

 

There’s a evil voice in our mind and it says a lot of scary things, and often we start to believe those things, especially if the outside world has voices that are saying the same scary things. We can’t really curb what the outside world says and does to us, but we can control how we handle them. If someone speaks bad to us, it will only affect us if there’s a part within us that agrees. The good news is we can work on mending those voices in our mind. That won’t be an overnight thing, it’ll probably be a daily combat.

 We have the ability to build & destroy in our minds. We can take the smallest worry, and amplify it into a immense set of latent problems, which in turns paralyzes us with fear. On the other hand, we can tell ourselves that even though we’re in pang, that we need to push harder to achieve what we’ve set out to attain, mental strength is what makes people phenomenal. 

The mind is a powerful thing & it’s not a cakewalk to work with it. Like every muscle, or skill, it requires workout; real & solid results will only appear laboriously (no easy-quick-fixes sorry). Our brains don’t sleep, they work even while our bodies are at rest. We can invest our age developing connections inside that will help us further sail life on the outside.

Life is not what happens to us, it’s how we deal with the stuff that happens.

Change the Focus

 

Did you know you can’t sneeze with your eyes open, it’s one or the other. Did you also know you can’t be unhappy and grateful at the same time either, once again it’s one or the other. Social media is having a steady stream of people b*tching about 2016, and that’s just contributing to the personal and collective misery of this planet. Let’s focus on the fact that we survived another year, because clearly, many beloved and well known folks didn’t. Let’s focus on the idea that we just did another lap around the sun and we’re still in one piece, our lungs are still soaking in oxygen, and we still have the time, literacy, and ability to type out our complaints on social media. Happiness isn’t what our year looked like, it’s how we decide to look at our year; it’s a choice. Life is rarely black and white, but in this instance it is. You decide your focus, and if it’s on all the things that went ‘wrong’ then you’re actively ignoring and not appreciating the things that went right, and if that’s the case, then maybe that misery is not only expected, it’s deserved. Don’t fall into the trap of “new year, new me” when it can be “new moment, new me” Every moment is a new moment to change the focus, you don’t have to wait until January 1st to make that shift. Tomorrow isn’t promised please make most of your today’s.

Don’t Give it up..!

People are going through sh*t everyday, we know that, because we’re one of those of people. Trying to put things in perspective and remembering that other people have it worse, doesn’t always seem to help. Our worst day, is still OUR worst day; knowing that there are children on another continent doing much worse is rationalizing an emotion, and we all know logic and emotions don’t make the best couple.

The feeling of hopelessness, that can be addressed though. We’ve all been alive long enough to see life go from wonderful to horrible to wonderful to horrible; it’s pretty much how life works. So there’s no point in assuming a bad day, week or month will mean a bad life.

Some days we are strong enough to fight back, change the channel and persevere. Other days, we can only curl up and weather the storm until we can recuperate a bit more. We’re all at different stages, and BREATHING will also be a good first step, no matter how deep the sh*t we’re going through is.

Pay attention to yourself, and if you do’nt have the energy or motivation to make things better, then try to hold your ground so things don’t get worse. The baby steps count, and they add up.

EXPECTATIONS

Like everybody else, I feel the pressures of being something for everybody.

People I care about have expectations of me, and the challenge with living up to those expectations come when they don’t match with who I really am.

Sometimes it’s all in my head that I have to live up to a certain reputation, or that people see me a certain type of way and it would be blasphemous to be anything else. That’s how reputations become prisons, prisons that we hold the key to.

I’m older now, so I’m so concerned with disappointing people and their expectations, but I still very much find it difficult to move forward if I know my choices can hurt someone. Sometimes what’s best for us may not be best for others, and someone is going to come out feeling very upset. Many times these expectations are unspoken, and we’re all walking on egg shells to live up to them, and feel under-appreciated when no one gives us credit for the effort.

Trying to figure myself out and be in the public is a huge challenge. People want to hold me accountable for things I did and said 5 years ago, like that guy even still exists. I can’t let that get to me, I have to evolve, evolution is the only the that keeps us from going extinct, as a collective, and individuals.

There are a lot of people reading this feeling that weight of other peoples’ expectations on their chest. It may not feel cool, but it’s okay to focus on being the best version of your true self, instead of being great in the eyes of another. Many times, they only put that pressure on you, because that pressure was put on them; be the one to break the cycle.

I try not to have too many expectations of others, but I’m sure I do. Knowing that keeps me from resenting those who may expect something of me.

The Truth

They’ll mock you for being skinny. They’ll mock you for being fat. For being too studious, and for being weak in studies too. They’ll tease you for being tall, short, beautiful, ugly, lazy, overactive, introvert, extrovert, or whatever they feel is not a copy of the archetype of what we call “average”.

For the truth is, the world we live in is a nasty place. And we, the self-proclaimed essential elements of this world are so submerged in our narcissism that we constantly ignore our despicable inner selves. But when knowledge dawns upon our ignorant minds, we tend to pull everyone down to our own level of mediocrity.

We try to persuade these “other” antisocial, solitary, and delusional people that they’re not beautiful, but they could be, if they joined the average lot. We do our best to bring them to our level to strip them off their uniqueness and make them as ugly as we are.

This is the reason why we spend our entire lives in filth and die only to get buried in it. But you, the beautiful ones, don’t have to make that disastrous choice. Rise up, for what you seek, and don’t be deceived by our worldly facades, for what might seem gold dust are often ashes of regret sprinkled with sparks of agony.